दर्द की दवा

"We are healed by suffering", wrote Marcel Proust, "only by experiencing it to the full". To dam the grief is to let it fester inside; to forgive and to forget may be a good maxim in political controversy, but in mental hygiene, it is better not to forget the wrong and yet to forgive the wrongdoer. The irreconcilability of grief is a necessary step in its experience. It cannot be skipped; it has to be lived through before the further stages of resignation and acceptance are transversed. 

The works of the Russian novelist Dostoevsky have a recurring thesis - the essential role of suffering in life. He believed that men did not acquire humility until they have suffered humiliation, and could not know the strength of goodness unless they have themselves borne the impact of evil. 

Adversity is a good school but unfortunately few people have the courage or the wisdom to graduate from it. Calamities pass over them like a summer storm, and their memories are short, having learnt nothing and forgotten everything..

दर्द जब हद से गुज़र जाए तो दवा बन जाता है।